Introduction: How does it all begin?
What to do when you are all alone? What should you do when all those feelings of loneliness, resentment, anger, pain and frustration come to engulf you and imprison you? What to do when they embrace you so hard that they refuse to let you go?
You have been in this world. Yet, you feel aloof. You feel as if you are weird. It feels like you can’t find your tribe. You try to get in, but you can’t. You try to find people to hold you tight when you are breaking into a million pieces. But you can’t!
How to find meaning in difficult times when all we want to do is escape? What to do when you are going through a very difficult time in life?
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What to do when you are feeling overwhelmed: Acceptance
So, what do you end up like? How to overcome difficult situations in life?
You deal with it all alone. You accept what it is. You finally stop sailing on the opposite direction of water. You swim with the flow of river. You accept what you have. You pick up all that you have, and you build from and with it.
You stop crying about what you don’t have. You stop whining like the kid that you once were. You own up to it. You own up to your pain.
You accept all your mistakes. You accept all that you could have known, had, and been. You accept the lost time. You accept the pain. You accept that this life can be very unfair.
You accept yourself, as it’s been too long running away from yourself. If you don’t fix your ways, then there might not be any time left to do it!
What comes next? Seeing life in its grandeur, not as your small box
Life in its grandeur is the spectacular vastness of this gigantic universe that you see as you look up at the marvel that these stars are, so many worlds they hide, when you look at the night sky on a blue ocean, with nothing but the moonlight shining bright. All you see is the ocean right in front of you.
As you hold your lover’s hand, and even if it’s just you, you feel the wholeness that is in you, the whole that you are, when you stop chasing, when you can halt, and halt in this very moment, when you have nowhere to go, when you have no one and nothing to find.
In this spectacle that life is, within you and around you, in the grandeur and magnificence that life holds.
Give up the petty wars: Finding meaning in pain and struggle
When you can finally realise what had been hidden from you. What you had kept hidden from yourself- these petty wars that you fight, or what you are hiding from. When you go and reach this level, when you find yourself to the depths of these, you realise that life isn’t what you think it is – life is not where you are lost right now, in what you are aspiring for right now.
When you see this grandeur, this life is, maybe then you shall stop blaming this Universe for all the pain and unfairness that was given to you, maybe then you shall see the depths of your pain and struggle.
What you do when all the paths fail and when you can’t overcome yourself: Go deeper within
The gift that this loneliness brought you. Then it shall be transformed into nothing but solitude, where you feel that it’s no more but you, when it’s nowhere but here, in no time but this one.
When all the paths fail, then which one you are being led to? The one within. Where are you being led to with all that frustration in your heart? With all that self-doubt and with all that you feel that you don’t deserve it all? When you tried so hard but you can’t overcome all those messy parts of you?
When you don’t even know what you are fighting? When you find your freedom in your pain, when your very pain leads you to your freedom?
The game of escapism: Finding yourself in the madness of this world
What shall we call this life?
These epiphanies that were being sung for us, were we so lost in the petty noises of the world, that we forgot to, or we could never develop those eyes and ears, that could see and hear the music that was always there for us around.
All we had to was listen! All that we had to do was leave it all, and then see what can we find, what comes when we let it all go.
All the madness in the world, all the madness of this life in us. How we run and try to find happiness as if it shall slip away, as if it is fragile, as if it shall wear out, gone. How we try to escape pain, lest it touch even our corners, lest we shall not bear it all, lest we shall be burnt by it.
Reminding ourselves of our strength: Finding strength & hope in difficult times
How foolish are we to forget how many mountains of such pain we have already held on our tiny shoulders, and as we were about to be crushed under it, we threw it away like they were made of sponge.
How foolish are we to believe that the pain will feel easy, that each time we will have the power to face it better. How foolish are we to feel that when you will have cramps then the 109th time, you will bear it better than the 50th time. No, you won’t !
Everytime, it shall feel fresh, on your skin, like the knife stripping away your skin with blood. That is why it is pain. Isn’t it?
That’s why it is Happiness. All these fancy feelings we dire to feel.
The love. The calm. The power.
The enlightened retard.
Are these to be felt or thought and analysed?
What are you supposed to do to feel? Do you need to feel at all? What do you do if not feel something at any point? Do you think how you feel? Do you feel how you think? Do you actually like you think and feel?
Do you see, hear, and observe and then do you fall into the cage?
So many questions for the already scared and overwhelmed child?
Leave it all and drop it all? Break it all? Run away from it all? Okay, let’s start whining and blaming. Look at all that we have lost.
The best? Look at others. Look for them. Become for them. Live for them. Make a living like this so that forever you are trapped in this drama.
Where Do Dreams, Love, and Peace Come From? Spirituality and Enlightenment
At what level of your being, do you find love in you? At what level do you feel love in you? When did you see this love in you, tell me? When did you see those dreams in you?
Tell me, have you ever felt still till then? Have you ever settled for anything and anyone but that until then? Or let me ask, have you been allowed to sit still?
What is it that they call this inner intelligence and those inner voices?
What is it that they call God that resides in you? The spirituality, enlightenment, and the one. The encompassing, the peace and surrender, the god, the love, the freedom and the power that they call, the art that they call.
What is it that pulls you towards yourself? What is it that brings you to yourself?
Where is this redemption that you seek?
This all that you have been seeking for so long. What is it and where is it?
When you stop looking, when your being told you to be the best, when it showed you all, when it showed you very clearly about it all.
How do you survive in this world? Finally feeling happiness
When you finally see yourself for the madness and the failure in all your intelligence and success in the world.
You don’t drop all your externalities. You add another layer to it, and then you keep adding to it, layer by layer, beautifully engraving it, like a sandstone in the ocean,
This time, you know it might be washed away by the sea, yet you build it anyway, as you have grown now. There’s a smile on your face. This smile isn’t like the happiness that scared you for being fragile and slipping away.
This time it’s that smile that is stuck to your veins, to the depths of the core of your being, and like your mind always relived all the bad memories and kept you in that timeline, imprisoned by people and things and survival.
How to deal with your loud mind: Stop being buried
Now you can see it bringing you all the wonderful memories that this life gave you, those that you had forgotten somewhere, which got buried under the weight of your traumas, failures, and mistakes.
You have been lost in crowds. You have been lost in putting up a mask for these people, work, and family.
You have been buried by your kindness as you have poured self-abandonment.
You seek validation. You seek praise and acceptance. You seek to be involved. You seek power. You give it away to people.
You run when your mind gets too loud. You run when your feelings start bleeding you. You run.
Don’t!
Do you want to go on a journey of self-love? Read our post on The Self-Love Journey: Finding Yourself Before Making Life’s Hardest Decisions
FAQs
1. Why do I struggle to find meaning in life?
You struggle to find meaning in life as you try too hard to find it. Meaning is not something you go on looking for. It is something that comes to you while you are going on with your life normally. You go and live your life. Let life do its wonders.
2. How do I find meaning in life?
How do humans find meaning in life:
1. Become your most authentic self, away from the noise of the world.
2. Listen to what your heart says when it all goes quiet.
3. Pursue it with all your might without any expectations.
4. Enjoy the journey. Live your life.
5. Spread love. Become love.
3. What causes a lack of purpose in life?
Sometimes we become disconnected from ourselves when we are trying to meet expectations, survive difficult circumstances, or escape uncomfortable emotions. Life can begin to feel directionless when we stop listening to ourselves.
4. How can I find meaning in life in tough times?
You need to begin by accepting what you are going through. Stop running away from it. When you go deeper within, you might start to find meaning, strength, and a new perspective.
5. How can I find strength in difficult times?
You find strength in tough times by acceptance, patience, and giving yourself time to heal.
Conclusion
How to Find Meaning in Difficult Times: A Spiritual Journey was an attempt to take you closer to yourself. It was an attempt to make you believe in yourself once again. It was an endeavour to help you navigate tough times in life. As no matter what happens, the sun rises again. There is sunshine after the darkness.
It is never the end. It is always the beginning.
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