Introduction
In life, we feel overwhelmed. We feel paralysed, unable to make our life decisions. This itself, is a road very far away.
First, it’s hard to sit still. We are so lost. We have listened to others so much. We have focused so much on others. We are in so much pain, agony, and resentment, aren’t we?
We have made so many choices or maybe we have been swamped by the decisions that this world threw at us.
This essay is a reflection to bring you back to yourself. It doesn’t tell you what you should do or how to make your decisions. These are heartfelt lines that take you on a deeper journey within yourself.
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My self-love journey
I have found myself on cross-roads, on paths where I found it hard to tread, on journeys that felt like forever.
I’ve felt disconnected from the world. I have found myself feeling lost and numb. I have felt like giving up. I had no where to go. I had no where to run.
I couldn’t give up, could I?
What’s in it for you?
Isn’t there an essence in each one of us that binds all of us together? Isn’t there an essence that becomes the very string that remains exclusively ours, yet it is the one that forms the binding connection to all?
Why is it that when you’re not feeling okay, and then this Universe puts in front of you, merely few words, to uplift your spirits, or maybe a few thoughtful lines to help you feel connected?
Why does it happen that in this connection is our healing? Why do we go seeking warmth in people? Why do we go seeking strength in other people’s books?
As we are bound by the bountiful existence of all that Universe has to offer for us. No matter how crazy it gets, never find yourself alone, you dare not.
I shall tell you in as stern demeanour or as a loving human to you. But you hold on.
Remember all the darkness of your past is the road towards the light of your future. It is all a magical fairy tale after all the devils you have faced in the past.
As you sit there alone, in this wide world, a little off-beat and a loner. Let this piece walk you through your journey within. Let it lead you to your healing.
If not this, then just delve in it, without any expectations or goals or gains from it. Just let it sink in. Let yourself drown in it. See what you find without trying to find anything.
See which parts of you it touches, without you trying to touch anything.
Let’s begin. Let’s go within.
Freeing myself
When I really have to decide big things then I realise that I first need to free myself from the weight that I have been carrying.
How do I cuddle myself in order to be ready to be able to make decisions?
Only when I can cuddle myself with the warmth of my love, now when I feel safe and secure, when I can see death, and myself gone forever, reaching this stage, and living here.
Then making my decisions, unleashing all that exists within me, where I am not constantly confirming and guessing again and again, where I’m confident about myself, full of self-love, self-focus, and self- needs.
How lost am I?
How far am I from myself? Now, when I see no one around me to relinquish my being, till then, do I not hold myself, tighter and tighter, until I feel safe, secure, and sane?
Until my body and mind relax. Until I feel alive and normal?
My mind is in places that I don’t even know of. What is to feel secure in a relationship? I don’t know.
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I shall be the one who will be with myself
I, in the end, can feel secure in my caressing, because I shall be with me forever, I shall close my eyes and shall be gone forever, by myself, leaving everyone behind but myself.
Feeling safe again after trauma
Let me first feel safe, and then decide big things for my life, because I don’t want fear or trauma to diminish even a single ounce of light that shall emanate from within me to brighten someone.
I shall not let even a single ounce of my light go waste.
Feeling unbearable pain
Let it be the hands that wipe your sea of tears, let it be the arms that hold you tight and caress your being to safety and sanity, let it bring a tiny smile on your face while your face is still wet with your pain, let it full you with strength, even if little, even if tiny little strength.
That’s all I desire, that’s all I find in my pain, this is where I find my strength to endure it all. It fills me up with life, this is my dream, it’s my desire.
Healing begins when we acknowledge our pain. Read our Silent Pain Shayari in English if these feelings resonate with you.
What is my safe place?
This is my safe place, within me, my dreams are my safe place.
Belief, love and hope, love lots of love, they are my safe place and they keep me alive while I live. They kill my trauma from within, in and out.
What makes me feel alive?
I become new, alive, me, I get inside my body, I become sane, I feel alive, like this life is short and I shall die and I must live every moment, this kind of life.
Throw caution to the wind, and fly, higher and higher, never to fall, to rest even in the fall.
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FAQs
What is the meaning of a self-love journey?
Self-journey is the journey to your home, your real home, that is you, yourself. It is the path that you undertake, lest this life runs out of your hands, time slips out of your bare hands.
Why is self-love important before making big life decisions?
Self-love brings you closest to yourself. It brings you to parts of yourself you feel you are not worthy of. It makes you see you for what you are, not what this world wants you to be.
Love is the only force that is the strongest in the world. Self-love holds the power to bring you closest to yourself. When you come the closest to your core, it is then that you make the right decisions, not only for yourself, but for this world.
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How do I begin loving myself?
1. Feel & Face your Demons
At first, it will feel impossible to accept the ugly parts of you – mistakes, resentment, and unfair challenges that this life threw at you. As you will sit with those emotions, you will feel like pushing them away. But, you shall have to sit with them. Until, they are released from your existence.
2. Be patient
Do not rush this self-love journey. No matter how hard it seems, keep pushing through.
3. See yourself for the magic that you are
Stop getting defined by the labels of the world. Stop putting conditions on self-love. Accept yourself. Work on yourself. Learn from your mistakes.
4. Listen to your heart
When you have healed enough, or when you are sane enough to be able to listen to your voices, just for once, follow what your heart says.
5. Be grateful for yourself and this life
Appreciate yourself – weaknesses, strengths, mistakes, and everything. You are an entire package.
You come with your unique gifts. Find them. Polish them. Let them shine for the world.
“Live your life as it is only a one-time offer.” – Unknown
Can painful experiences help us grow?
No matter how bad we may consider pain, it is the only way to help us grow. Have you ever noticed that after our darkest storms, we find our lights? Have you ever wondered why so much pain and challenges were given to the most successful people?
Yes, you got it right. Everything in life comes at a price. Sooner or later, abundance, love, and success shall find you.
All you have got to do is to hold on tight to your unique journey. Keep your eyes and attention on yourself.
How can I make difficult decisions with more confidence?
If you want to make the right decisions, then you need to be in the right state of being. Never seek perfection.
Be ready to fall, fail, and make mistakes. Ass in the falling, there shall be a sprout of confidence that shall be born.
Self-love also means believing in yourself. Read our Self-Confidence Shayari in English for daily motivation.
Conclusion
How was the journey to your self? Let us know in the comments. Share it with something you feel would need this piece.
Remember to keep looking for light no matter how dark it gets. Keep coming back to yourself no matter how far you wander. Keep coming to yourself no matter how tough it gets.
No matter how many times you sit up, unable to face your demons. No matter how much resentment and delusion of a worst life ahead fill your entire being. No matter how tough people around you seem. How challenging you seem, Just go on.
This self-journey may be long and challenging. But it’s the only worthwhile journey. It’s the only journey that you need to undertake.
No matter how far you travel, even to the moon and back, the ultimate travel is within yourself, and within yourself, you shall find all the bounties- love, peace, happiness, calm that you have always looked for.
As the journey of self is the ultimate journey,
The self-decisions are the ultimate decisions,
The voices that go loud as you tread on this journey,
The only loud within you should be the noises of your soul,
They must consume you,
Must destroy you,
Only your voices, and none other.
Let’s delve deeper into the inner voice journey together here – 💜Self-love Shayari in English to Heal, Grow & Choose Yourself
